“Children are ultimately born to the community because they will influence the nature of the community. If the children that are born in the community are self-hating or have problems with their identity or self-controlled or destructive and so forth, you will see a community that will fall apart, a community that is at odds with itself, a community that is divided, a community that, by its very nature, will continue to destroy other children and other people.”
There has been a very popular yet unfortunate trend on social media for the past few years, and it’s gotten to the point where I can’t search on any platform without being immersed in it. What I’m referring to is the Black Man vs. Black Woman trope.
If one was to search YouTube, Twitter, Facebook and even Google, the terms black man and black woman, they would find an onslaught of degenerate videos, articles, blogs, and random posts that degrade an entire group of people—particularly African Americans. These biased, third-grade logic-filled rants that I see from children who happen to be in adult bodies, have gotten so toxic that I wouldn’t be surprised if people outside of the African diaspora get offended. And what’s even more pathetic is the fact that this venom is coming from a community who, as a collective, are still at the bottom of the barrel socially, economically, and politically, but we’ll still make time to demean our own.
I guess the saying is true: Hurt people hurt people. Because the lack of love, attention, protection, appreciation, and all-around upliftment of my community has come to a head for the whole world to see. And now that folks are able to receive compensation (I.E. ad revenue) for their adolescent behavior, this trend will unfortunately continue.
I don’t have the energy or patience to break down why so many black men and black women hate themselves (because that’s what tearing down your own is; self-hate). But if you watch television, listen to music, read magazines, or have taken a history class you’ll understand why. We suffer from an identity crisis that no one else does, and if you mix that with the 24/7 propaganda machine that’s used to keep us docile, piecing this together will be a cake walk.
So what’s a solution, you might ask? Self Love and Knowledge of Self.
Children, I know this is going to be hard at first because you need the attention. But please stop hurting your community. When you make negative blanket statements about all black women or all black men based off of your own personal experiences with a handful, all of us take that hit and it hurts. We get beat down by everyone else, so why do we have to do it to each other? Try loving yourself by gaining a knowledge of self, and I guarantee you that you will heal as an individual and our plight, as a collective, will change.
Until Next Time…