RIP Gender?

“I feel like people are kind of confused about gender norms. I feel like people don’t really get it. I’m not saying that I get it. I’m just saying that I’ve never seen any distinction. I don’t see man clothes and woman clothes. I just see scared people and comfortable people.”

Jaden Smith

Greetings Everyone,

The young man you see in the featured image of this post is rapper Young Thug. His new mixtape, Jeffery, has already made headlines and for obvious reasons. Men wearing dresses isn’t anything new, especially in the comedic sense; Madea, Big Momma’s House, etc. However, the social/political statement behind seeing a man in a dress nowadays is, and it’s starting to add another flame to the gender war between men & women.

The new message behind cross-dressing is gender fluidity.

  • Gender Fluid – is a gender identity which refers to a gender which varies over time. A gender fluid person may at any time identify as male, female, neutrois, or any other non-binary identity, or some combination of identities.

This basically means death to gender identities.

I remember one of my Twitter companions posing the question, “Can you imagine a world without gender?” They went on to argue that gender is nothing but a social construct used to divide men and women as well as marginalize one sex from the other. My response to their question ended up starting a kerfuffle, because I didn’t understand and still don’t understand the purpose of this argument. Gender is an identity, so if the argument is to wipe out the identity altogether, what would be the point of having two different sexes (male/female)?

Gender roles, however, are social constructs; women should stay in the kitchen and cook, men should stay outside and work on cars. Getting rid of gender roles and stereotypes is debatable, but getting rid of the identity of being a male or female is tone-deaf to me.

In regards to how this conversation affects my community, a mess. Every topic from the emasculation of black men, misogyny, self-hate, and homophobia is brought up to keep us divided. And do you know who’s to blame for all of this? Black men, well, a certain type of black man.

FullSizeRender-14As problematic as that statement is, it’s not something that I haven’t heard before coming from Black people. Apparently, we’re the ones who told Black women that they can’t vote, work, or receive equal pay as their white counterparts. We’re the only ones who are homophobic because every other race of men and women are so accepting of the black LGBTQ community. And we’re the ones who have kept our foot on the back of our community’s neck and have stunted any sort uplift that could change our lives for the better. Right?

Gender inequality isn’t anything new, and with the advent of social media, a lot of those social issues have been brought to the forefront for the better. But the idea that our society will be able to solve those problems by wiping out the identity altogether is just lazy. Instead of going to the root of the problem by studying the history and science behind the perception of men and women, many are arguing that we need to destroy the concept of being a man and a woman let alone masculinity and femininity. Because that’s the supposed-cause of our problems.

I equate this entire argument to the same folks who feel that benevolence is the cure for systemic racism. If we’re going to have this type of discussion, at least come with some credible sources as to why our society needs to go this route. Because it’s not going to be as easy as you think. Everything would have to change…everything!

Until Next Time…


Gender Wiki. (n.d.). Retrieved August 27, 2016, from

2 Comments Add yours

  1. You got to the brink and didn’t take the kill shot. White patriarchy subjugates the entire globe. And my opinion of gender deconstruction is not rooted in societal normalities but is a scientific/biological reality that people are trying to destroy to usurp religious tenets because within that paradigm their behavior is codified as sinful and immoral. It’s like NCHB2, there’s forest and there’s trees…There is an agenda here and I fear what will remain once it is achieved.

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  2. kris P says:

    The African Bull Frog has been known to change gender in times of need. Its population when in need of more males to populate the species would random select s specimen to change from one sex to another. Scientist call it a survival tactic. We as homo sapiens were designed, built, created, engineered, evolved(you pick you religious undertone) to have two separate and distinct genders; one male one female. This design was made to not only IDENTIFY each other but also to CLASSIFY. Not hear to play the gender war of old, is am just going to drop the mic on this one and say male is male, and female is female.
    Dr. Spock and well known psychologist, had chimed in on the human species, i saying that males are visual, insatiable, needy creatures that thrive on attention, physical strength and mental motivation. the converse can be said about the female species. Nowadays, for whatever incredibly misunderstand-able reason, the gender lines are forced into a blurred contorted line. Not saying that there is something wrong with the LGBT community, but there is something wrong when a person thinks that this is ok, let alone fashionable. Please stop letting the weed-heads, coke heads and the downright outcast mental intelligence be the dictators of the common sense, the normality, the way of life miners. I can go on but i digress cause this is sheer folly.

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